If we're living a life focused on developing our capacity for love, clarity, compassion and kindness, we're going to miss the mark many times. We're going to have lots of moments of confusion, we'll have desires and distractions that diffuse the power and clarity of our intention, we'll speak harshly against ourselves at times, we'll speak about friends in ways that dishonor them at other times. If we're practicing in a committed way, we're going to observe many moments in which our words and actions do not support our ultimate goals or our align with our values.
But we simply cannot see them all.
We can't clean ourselves up all by ourselves - we're always missing or overlooking impediments to our own growth, due to fear or denial, and the myriad blind spots created by our beliefs, assumptions and previous experiences. There are certainly many people in our lives who notice these lapses, those close to us and those merely acquainted. But there are precious few who would extend themselves to hold us accountable to our highest intentions. And that's understandable! These kinds of interactions feel (and are) risky. Relationships can change drastically, even end, based on such episodes. This is complex territory, and there is never a guarantee that the information given will be accepted or appreciated.
If there are few willing to risk the vulnerability inherent in offering course-correcting guidance to us, those who can do so expertly - without creating a new wound within us or igniting an old one - are the rarest gems indeed. Those beings, whatever outward role they play in our lives, are our truest teachers, our deepest spiritual friends. May we cherish them wherever we find them in our lives. May we hear them and grow. May we someday offer the same gift to another.
Dana Wyss Healing Arts
Breathe deeply, practice often, be well.